I could talk to you about the importance of different styles of exercise and how eating properly is crucial, however if the belief that you are able to achieve that goal is not within you, then you will likely give up before reaching it, no matter the steps you take. My holistic approach to health and fitness considers all elements of lifestyle and mind set in order to make sure you are fully equipped for long term changes with your health and fitness, but also skills that will transfer across to other areas of your life to have an overall positive impact.
There is a strong stigma that when we integrate exercise and other healthy habits into our lives there has to be a complete upheaval of our entire lifestyle, habits and social life. Results for your health, body and mind take TIME and yes, changes, but life will happen and we need to make sure we create an achievable plan that will not result in added stress.
There is never a one size fits all, but generally I have found that people who tell me, "I have to go all or nothing," never manage to stick to the 'all' approach. This is also why I work mostly on a 1 to 1 basis, so that I can help you create a workable lifestyle and healthy relationship with food and exercise just for you.